decisions

Many people contact us because they want help in making major decisions. We never tell them what to do but try to listen, ask questions and guide them to make the decisions that will work best for them.

We all have decisions to make and often thoughts go through our minds like a hamster running on a wheel. It is easier to write thoughts down and look at your considerations. Often we work with people who are trying to decide what to do. It could be to sell a home, move to be near grandchildren, take a cruise, go back to school, take a job, retire….

Here is something to try:

Take a piece of paper and divide it into 4 sections. Title the sections:

Positive to ___

Negative to ___

Positive not to___

Negative not to ___

Take a few days and begin putting comments below each heading. Add to the lists as you think of other things. The lists will often start out quite even but usually one or two lists will grow.

An example is to continue working or not to continue working (retire)

Positive to continue working:

  • Excellent income
  • Can save for future
  • Can finish the program you had been working on

Positive to not continue working:

  • Time to travel
  • More time for family
  • Time for hobbies

Negative to continue working:

  • Finding it harder to work
  • Paying lots of taxes
  • Expenses to go to work – transportation

Negative to not continue working:

  • Will miss friends from work
  • Will have to be careful with spending
  • May not know what to do with each day

Some other examples:

To stay in my home – positive and negative

To move – positive and negative

To move near grandchildren – positive and negative

To not move near grandchildren – positive and negative

To go on a cruise – positive and negative

To not go on a cruise – positive and negative

To get remarried – positive and negative

To not get remarried – positive and negative

To get a pet – positive and negative

To not get a pet – positive and negative

Indecision can be exhausting. Try paper and the four sections. A very young widow asked if she should stay in her very large home or move. She made her lists and found it very helpful to put her thoughts on paper. Several weeks later she “knew” what would work best for her. Years later she confirmed that she had made a wise choice.

 

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