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Divorce is on the rise among senior couples, with a survey showing that the divorce rate for 55 to 64-year-olds has climbed to 15 divorces per 1,000 marriages in recent years. Some of the most common reasons for ending a marriage include marrying young, financial problems, and being in a second marriage (relationship experts say that second marriages are at greater risk of divorce). Having to end a relationship with a significant other is a difficult thing to do, and it may even have a negative impact on your wellbeing. A breakup can lead to stress, depression and anxiety, which is why it is important to deal with it in a healthy way. If you’ve recently ended a relationship, here’s how you can cope with a breakup or divorce in a positive way.
Talk about living arrangements
Some older couples would rather stay together instead of breaking up, since looking for another home can be a challenge, especially if they’re sharing resources. If you’re staying together because you’re having second thoughts about ending the relationship, or you’re dealing with a problem that can be fixed, such as arguments over finances or struggles with healthy communication, then it may be good to work things out, as these things tend to get better over time. However, if the relationship is toxic because you have contempt for one another, or if there’s chronic infidelity, then it may be best to let go and heal. Don’t stay together simply because you’d rather not look into a new living arrangement. Discuss whether you’d move out of your shared home, or if one of you should live in a different retirement home. Having some space to process your feelings and start your life anew is important if you want the healing process to begin.
Stay in touch with family and friends
Some people tend to isolate themselves while going through a breakup or a divorce. While it’s okay to take some time out to figure things out on your own, keep in mind that prolonged isolation can be detrimental to your health. A recent study has found that social isolation was associated with a roughly 50 percent increased risk of dementia, and it may also cause premature mortality. To stay healthy while coping, keep in touch with your loved ones through regular phone calls or video calls, and don’t hesitate to reach out to a friend if you need someone to talk to.
Pursue your passion
Pursuing your passion after a divorce or breakup will not only make you feel happier, but it will also give you a sense of achievement and boosted confidence. So go on and write that novel that you always wanted to write, join a dance class, learn a new language, start painting or drawing, or do whatever it is that makes you feel alive. It’s never too late to start doing what you’ve always wanted to do. You’ll find hope and joy in the abundance of wonderful opportunities that are out there for you.
Ending a relationship can be difficult, but with time and the help of your loved ones, you can deal with it and come out stronger and happier on the other side. Cope with a breakup or divorce in a healthy way and start over, and keep in mind that things will get better, one step at a time.
