The mid years of your life could mean a midlife crisis. For some of us this is a difficult time. Midlife could come early or it could show up later but everyone deals with it in a different way. They either sail straight through or they fight it every inch of the way.
How can we make it easier to avoid a crisis at midlife?
- Stop thinking it’s too late. Midlife is usually when we stop and take stock of how far we have come and what we feel we have yet to accomplish. The emphasis should be on “we feel”, because as the years pass our wishes and desires will change. You can do so many things at any age. No, you aren’t too old to do those things you really want to do.
- What are your priorities? Do you still want that expensive race car? Do you still want to climb mountains and go hang gliding? Most likely, your answers to these questions have changed drastically since you were younger. For many of us, age brings wisdom. Our priorities tend to be our families and those close to us. We are finally figuring out what makes us happy or content.
- If not now, when? Stop waiting. This is a habit most of us have even with the small everyday things. We bring out the good china only when guests show up. We save our best clothes for special occasions. Shouldn’t every day be special? Are we not important enough to use the good china for ourselves?
- Deal with your regrets. We all have them. Learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made. Most of them were probably when you were much younger. Apologize if you can and move on with your life. Others have most likely forgotten the things you see as so terrible.
Midlife is just another part of your life. It doesn’t have to be worse than the first part or better than the last. Take advantage of the time you have and if you need help, ask for it. To read the full article on dealing with a midlife crisis, click here.